- Is It Abuse?
- Darby A. Strickland
- 14 July 2019
review Is It Abuse?
Is It Abuse? Read å 4 Particularly wives Ultimately you will become euipped to provide wise and Christ centered counsel while navigating a difficult and complex situationUnderstanding oppression Is it abuse The helper's calling The dynamics of abuse Understanding the impacts of abuse Helping the oppressed Uncovering oppression Uncovering physical abuse Uncovering sexua. An Essential Resource for All Christians Who Love Lead and Serve Abuse Survivors After reading this magnificent book by Darby Strickland foreword by Ed Welch I not only thanked God that its wise biblical and practical content would be available for all Christians to benefit from in years to come I also sincerely thought to myself This is the best book I have ever read on the topic of Christians and abuse To test myself I went down to the shelves in my personal library that are packed with resources related to Christians and abuse trauma and I sat for hours re reading my outlines notes and other marginalia in all of the best most Christ centered most rigorously biblical and yet eminently accessible books I have read over decades of study on the topic of abuse My time spent in this review only solidified my initial inclinationIn her book Is It Abuse A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims Darby Strickland provides Christians and their churches with the best resource on the topic of abuse that I have ever read I could not highly recommend itIf you are already versed in biblical teachings related to oppression abuse and if you have your own set of memories of working with abuse survivors you may enjoy simply reading through this book in its entirety This is well written well organized and engaging prose that elucidates rich and important contentBut if you are new to the topic of abuse and you need to step slowly into the layers of complexity associated with this heartbreaking reality you have a trustworthy and gentle guide in Ms Strickland She thoroughly explains terms without losing the reader in dry clinical definitions She facilitates reflection on new concepts through excellent review uestions And she provides appendices charts and other resources for your review and use in the future in fact she even specifically encourages her readers to copy and reuse the tools in this book What a heart of ministryBuilt on sound exegesis and wise application of Scripture in abuse situations Darby Strickland s book Is This Abuse is exactly the tool Christians need to stop making the devastating errors that lead to continuing abuse in Christian homes and churchesPlease Read it Live it And then introduce your church leaders and friends to its content tooI wish with all my heart that a book on abuse and Christians was not needed but after decades of serving as a Christian attorney and mediator I know with complete certainty that it isThank you Darby Strickland for this profound gift to all who despise oppression and abuse and all who delight in the goals you have for this book to drive out sin and protect the vulnerable Amen and amenTara Klena Barthel JD MBA Christian attorneymediator author of Living the Gospel in Relationships and coauthor of Peacemaking Women and Redeeming Church ConflictsThis review is based on my pre release reading of this manuscript I received no compensation for this review You can pre order this book on wwwFree download ☆ PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook å Darby A. Strickland
Is It Abuse? Read å 4 God does not intend for marriage to be a place of oppression Providing practical tools and exercises biblical counselor Darby Strickland prepares potential helpers to pick up on cues that could point to abuse and investigate them wisely You will learn how to identify a range of abusive behavior and better understand the impact of abuse on victims. Heavy subject matter but a very helpful clarifying book Darby Strickland clearly brings a wealth of experience on this topic
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Is It Abuse? Read å 4 L abuse Uncovering emotional abuse Uncovering spiritual abuse Uncovering financial abuse Upholding the oppressed Helping mothers and children Supporting steps toward freedom Appendices A safety plan Ten ways to educate your church Detecting red flags during dating Premarital abuse assessment Abusive argument inventory Who are domestic abuse expert. Domestic abuse has been an important subject to me as a man as a Christian and as a Presbyterian minister for several years Therefore I was delighted when Darby Strickland a counselor and teacher at Christian Counseling and Education Foundation CCEF and Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing asked me to be part of a launch team for Strickland s new 360 page paperback coming out in a few days Is It Abuse A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims As soon as I received the electronic galley copy I jumped in with both feet and was not disappointed It is written in a comfortable style easily digestible by anyone who will take it up and read But it is written primarily for those who desire to stand beside and help victims of domestic abuse Therefore the author aims to pass on to readers 1 what she has learned so that we can have clarity about this issue 2 to euip us to think biblically about oppression and 3 to teach us how to be a trusted guide for those who are enslaved and ensnared 15 It seems to me she hits her target dead centerAfter an encouraging foreword by Edward T Welch the book divides into three sections understanding oppression uncovering oppression and upholding the oppressed In the first section Strickland explains why she uses the biblical descriptor of oppression instead of abuse which places this whole discussion suarely in a Scriptural framework Oppression is mentioned repeatedly in the Sacred Writings from one end to the other A uick read over Psalm 9 10 shows how God feels toward the oppressed and what he thinks about the oppressor Even though using the term abuse is universal shorthand switching to oppressed and oppressor seems right and helps to change the playing field for counselors and pastors Next the author unfolds what domestic oppression is what the oppressors are about and what role we can play Since one in four women experience intimate partner violence the author will normally speak about women but what she writes can also apply to men who are battered and coerced by their wives I ve seen this firsthand than once But honestly what Strickland describes as oppression and what the oppressor is after has implications far beyond her immediate subject matter In an unhealthy harmful repressive environment the oppressor pursues their own self interests by seeking to control and dominate the other through a pattern of coercive controlling and punishing behaviorsNo matter what form oppression takes its intended outcome is the same to punish and wound a victim so that an oppressor gets their world the way they want it An oppressor s behavior says Serve me or suffer the conseuences 24 These first five chapters can actually be given as counseling homework for those being harmed to help them see and define their experience In the second portion of the book the author uncovers five categories of abuse and gives each class its own chapter There s physical abuse sexual emotional spiritual and financial One take away from this segment of the book is that we re to see patterns not one time climactic episodes As each incident and situation is compiled with others we can begin to comprehend the actions for what they are not episodic experiences but a lifestyle choice The oppressor makes a habit of these actions Another lesson learned is that though there may be anger involved yet the abuseroppressor doesn t act out of anger theperpetrator of violence is not out of control It is uite the opposite an oppressor uses violence in order to maintain control 128 That is a huge observation There is also this when we trip over financial abuse and see it for what it is we find that it usually opens the door for us to see the other types of abuse going on 237 All the way through these chapters Strickland is crystal clear that oppressors are masters at acting like victims and making their spouses believe that it is their fault the oppressor is angry or hurt 182 and that the oppressed didn t do anything to deserve this treatmentThe last section of the book describes and guides readers in ways to be a real help to mothers and their children and assisting them towards freedom The author s sense of danger for the oppressed comes through lucidly in each of these two chapters and is an observation that readers need to take to heart oppressors can become dangerous as their spouses seek liberty In fact sometimes the oppressor s actions will pick up at the level of intensity and harm where it left off at the last incident Therefore deliverance often has a wilderness experience attached to it it takes time for God to restore and redeem what has been broken 290There are six highly important and useful appendices that pastors and counselors can use at the end of the book But also throughout the entire manuscript there are breakout resources for training helpers and useable tools assessments and inventories I think that 11 What God Says about Oppression and 84 A Note to Pastors and Elders were both extremely vital Is It Abuse is an essential read There is so much I couldn t cover in this review but hopefully what I have pointed out will demonstrate why you need this volume Not only should counselors grab up a copy but even parents and friends of the oppressed And pastors especially should get themselves their own text and with highlighter and pen in hand mark this thing up jotting down notes throughout Not only will you find the information valuable in the area of domestic abuse but with a little reflection it will open your eyes to other forms of oppression that are going on around us This is a must read and I highly recommend itMy thanks to Darby Strickland and PR Publishing for putting me on the launch team and providing me an electronic copy of this book There were no stipulations made on me no hostage taking going on and no bribes offered I can say with all honesty and integrity that this evaluation is all mine freely made and freely given I m sold on the 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